I was looking back through my previous posts and found that the stats on my post, “7 Prayers for Foster Care and Adoption” are BOOMING. I had written this post about six months ago highlighting all the areas foster care and adoption needs prayer. Today, I want to share another post on a similar subject-7 Prayers to Pray for Waiting Children.
There are more than 100,000 children in foster care who are waiting for a permanent home. These children range from age 0-21, though the median age is 8 years of age. Some require extra love through trauma and developmental or emotional disabilities. Others wish to be placed with their biological siblings. I’ve talked about how to know if you’re ready for foster care adoption before.
However, maybe you don’t think you’re ready to adopt from foster care. Maybe that’s something that is not in the cards for you! I’m a firm believer even if you never foster or adopt you can help children in foster care.
Today, I want to share for my praying friends a week worth of prayers to say over children in foster care who are waiting for their forever families.
Prayers For Waiting Children:
With children waiting for adoption, time matters so much. We’ve all seen the posts on Facebook that show a child holding a sign that says “After ___ days in foster care, I am adopted!” Those posts always touch my heart so deeply…but what hits me hardest is when I do the math.
I remember I once saw a child who had a number over 3000. That means she was in foster care, living her life in limbo, for over ten years. Ten years. That’s double the length of my marriage, y’all. Some of these kids will sit in foster care for years and years, unsure of where they will end up calling home after they age out. Pray for the courts. Pray for the speed of the social workers. Pray for the waiting families. Pray that they all move at a speed that is acceptable when a child’s life is hanging in the midst of decisions.
That families are led to adopt “hard to place” kids
Many of the children who waiting for forever homes are considered “hard to place”. Some have special needs, some have medical needs. Others have trauma in their history-and some are just older than what most are looking to adopt. I encourage you to pray over these children especially. That families can see past what is written on a piece of paper and inquire about the child behind it. Also, pray God equips families to care for and adopt these placements.
And pray, very specifically, that more families are led to adopt these waiting children.
Relationships with biological families are maintained (When Safe)
While this is obviously not an option for all children, when it is safe, pray that biological ties are maintained. Often children are separated from their biological siblings. Pray that families are adopting siblings separately establish and maintain a relationship when it is in the best interest of children. I would also encourage prayer for biological family members as adoption happens-this can be a hard time in their lives.
For the families fostering these children
As a forever child in a fostering family, I’ve often said that I wouldn’t trade this for the world. However, watching a child you’ve lived with for years sometimes move on…it’s hard. I’ve discussed the heartbreak of foster care before. Even when a child is moving on to another home that is good for them, it hits the foster family. Many of us(not all, because as with every demographic, there are bad foster parents) put our all into these children. Even when we know they are not going to be with us forever-especially when we know that.
I encourage you to pray for the families that will be saying good-bye. Pray healthy connections are made and continued after adoption is finalized.
Future Adoptive Parents are prepared for these Children
As I stated above, many children waiting for adoption have special needs. Not all are developmental; some are cognitive, emotional, medical or trauma related. No matter what needs they have the parent(s) who will someday adopt them may need a special set of skills. I firmly believe these are skills that are learned, not ones they acquire at birth.
Pray for the waiting families, that they learn and grow in all the ways they need to adequately assist these children. I also encourage you to pray the friends and churches these families belong to as well. The church can be a great help or hinder to foster and adoptive families. Pray they find one that is a help-or create the help within the church themselves.
That Hopeful Adoptive Families Know Their Limits
I have an entire post on this for foster care: Reasons We Say No To A Placement. When praying over waiting children though, I hope you add this to your prayers. I have heard of quite a few families that take in a child with needs too severe for their family and home and a child needs to be put up for adoption again.
That kind of strain is so detrimental for a child who thinks they found a forever home, only to move on to somewhere else again. While behaviors can change and are not always known, pray for discernment for the waiting families.
These Children Do Not Give Up Hope
I can’t imagine what it’s like to be waiting for a forever family-and there’s a real possibility, you my friend cannot either. Pray for these children’s hearts. When you are bowing your heads, pray that they have faith God will provide. In the midst of your day, pray they hold steadfast to a hope and peace that surpasses all understanding. If you are reading through The Word and happen to come upon a verse on hope, pray it over these 100.00+ waiting kids.
Again, if you are interested in pursuing foster care adoption, I am always available to answer any questions you may have that I can. I leave you with go to website I provide for families: AdoptUsKids.
What’s another way you pray over waiting children in foster care?